Thanks for the suggestions all.
Shashen, thanks for the pic. I had done my hair in a messy version of how you suggested but lately I'd forgotten about it
Recently I cut a long fringe in my hair which I'm able to blend in with the rest of my hair when I get sick of it. It's been working quite well.
I also found a new way to style my hair. I wave the long fringe and the curl the ends of my hair and pull it back into a messy bun. Somehow it looks kind of formal. Then when I take it down it's kind of loose curls that look as natural as curly hair can on me!
Still, as always I'm never satisfied so I may cut it shorter like I had it about a year ago.